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Why Do Couples Argue Over the Holidays?
[VIDEO] Family plans, finances, and holiday expectations—oh my! Mary Beth Luedtke highlights the reasons couples often struggle this time of year.
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Healthy Ways to Handle Holiday Emotions: A Therapist’s View
[VIDEO] The holiday season often brings pressure to feel constant joy, but embracing all emotions—both light and dark—can lead to healthier, more meaningful celebrations.
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Is This A Crisis?
[VIDEO] Dr. Daniel BE, Licensed Clinical Psychologist, talks about how to discern what is a real crisis and what is simply a concern.
Daniel BE
Election Anxiety
[VIDEO] Election anxiety is a common experience, especially during contentious political climates. Dr. Daniel BE, Licensed Clinical Psychologist, talks about learning new skills for navigating our current cultural turbulences.
Mary Beth Luedtke
Battling Defensiveness
[VIDEO] Mary Beth Luedtke dives into the topic of defensiveness and reveals how therapy teaches you the skills you need to turn a battleground into a safe harbor.
Mary Beth Luedtke
The Hidden Costs of a Hectic Life
[VIDEO] While a hectic schedule is common, it often comes with important hidden costs. Mary Beth Luedtke talks about what happens when we get caught up in the whirlwind of constant activities and a never-ending to-do list.
Daniel BE
Back to School
[VIDEO] Dr. Daniel BE offers practical advice for families on how to stay connected during the busy back-to-school season in three simple steps.
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Does Couples Therapy Help?
[VIDEO] Couples may consider counseling but hesitate because they fear it won’t help. Dr. Daniel BE speaks plainly about why couples therapy does help and can be an invaluable resource for creating a healthier relationship.
Mary Beth Luedtke
When Priorities Change in a Relationship
[VIDEO] When priorities change, it can strain relationships. Mary Beth Luedtke helps couples learn skills to navigate differing priorities and grow together.
Daniel BE
How to Address Your Partner’s Anger
[VIDEO] Move past the discomfort and learn to address anger head-on with confidence and grace, fostering a deeper connection with your spouse. Watch this 1-minute video with Dr. Daniel BE.
Daniel BE
Erosion of Trust
[VIDEO] The erosion of trust in a relationship often occurs in ways you wouldn’t necessarily expect. Relationship Therapist, Dr. Daniel BE, talks about how this happens and the skills he teaches to help couples create connection and togetherness.
Mary Beth Luedtke
Closing Emotional Distance
[VIDEO] Are you feeling disconnected from your partner without understanding how it happened? Mary Beth Luedtke can help you build the emotional skills you need to strengthen and maintain a healthy relationship.
Mary Beth Luedtke
Perfectionism
[VIDEO] Perfectionism has a major pitfall. Therapist Mary Beth Luedtke can help you find a better, more fulfilling way to achieve your goals.
Daniel BE
Communication Isn’t the Problem
[VIDEO] Most couples think poor communication is the primary source of problems in their relationship. Licensed psychologist Dr. Daniel BE explains that communication skills are only part of the problem. Find out how to get to the REAL root of your relationship issues.
Mary Beth Luedtke
Learning Emotional Skill: A Therapist’s View
[VIDEO] Mary Beth Luedtke explains how therapy is more than simply talking about your feelings. At BEing There, therapy is about equipping you with the skills you need to more effectively navigate life’s challenges.
Daniel BE
Can Artificial Intelligence Fix Your Relationship?
[VIDEO] Have you tried AI for relationship advice? Are humans necessary for building connection?
Mary Beth Luedtke
Parenting a Struggling Teen
[VIDEO] Therapist Mary Beth Luedtke delves into the emotional skills and tools needed to effectively reach out and connect with your teen.
Daniel BE
100% Responsible
[VIDEO] Therapy is a skill-building tool to make your life better. This means understanding the choices that have gotten you to where you are now and learning new skills that allow you to make different and better choices in the future.
Daniel BE
Why Emotional Skills Make Relationships Work
[VIDEO] Dr. Daniel BE takes the mystery out of relationship issues by helping you and your partner learn the specific emotional skills that are most effective in creating a thriving relationship.
Mary Beth Luedtke
Attending to You
[VIDEO] Untangle the issues around self-care with therapist Mary Beth Luedtke. Learn the essential emotional skills to prioritize your well-being, enabling you to become a healthier you.
Donna BE
Healthy Marriage
[VIDEO] Donna BE, a Board Certified Professional Counselor and Certified Relationship Specialist, discusses some of the tangible and identifiable elements that make for a healthy marriage.
Donna BE
Connecting the Dots
[VIDEO] Do you ever feel like your day-to-day experiences are all over the map? Board Certified Professional Counselor, Donna BE, shares valuable insights on building emotional skills and creating a clear and meaningful picture of your experiences.
Daniel BE
Trauma: The Myth and the Reality
[VIDEO] Trauma is a term commonly tossed around in psychology, but what does it really mean? Dr. Daniel BE explains the myths and reality around trauma and how therapy can help.
Mary Beth Luedtke
Navigating Change
[VIDEO] Life transitions can disrupt our lives and bring about powerful, unexpected emotions. Therapist Mary Beth Luedtke offers expert guidance and training to help you skillfully navigate any changes that come your way.
Daniel BE
Being Playful
[VIDEO] Play can easily be overlooked, but it’s so important for our emotional health. Dr. Daniel BE encourages you to bring some playfulness back into your life.
Daniel BE
Being Present
[VIDEO] The ability to be present is a fundamental aspect of emotional health. Dr. Daniel BE talks about the training needed to build this valuable skill.
Mary Beth Luedtke
Fix My Kid!
The Role of a Family Therapist
[VIDEO] Every parent faces challenges with their children. Mary Beth Luedtke explains how training in emotional skills can create a healthy, connected, and purposeful parent-child relationship.
Donna BE
Do We Need Couples Therapy?
[VIDEO] Do We Need Couples Therapy? Certified Relationship Specialist, Donna BE, addresses this common question.
Daniel BE
Men’s Group
[VIDEO] Be a better man, husband, father, and friend; find more motivation, inspiration, grounding, and wisdom. Dr. Daniel BE talks about the role his men’s groups can play in your health, personal growth, and success.
Mary Beth Luedtke
Parenting The Digital Generation
[VIDEO] Did taking the phone away solve the problem? What other options are there? Mary Beth Luedtke guides parents in navigating issues with teens around connection, phones, and social media.
Daniel BE
The Value of Conflict
[VIDEO] Dr. Daniel BE shares his perspective on conflict and what you can do differently to use every experience, even conflict, as an opportunity to create connection.
Mary Beth Luedtke
I Swore I’d Never Do That!
[VIDEO] Can you think of something you swore you’d never do as a parent and then found yourself doing anyway? Mary Beth Luedtke at BEing There Counseling trains parents in the emotional skills they need to create new and healthier family dynamics.
Donna BE
Never Compromise
[VIDEO] Donna BE can teach you and your partner to work together as a team to achieve an uncommon level of consideration, cooperation, and connection—without compromise.
Daniel BE
How Often Should I Go To Therapy?
[VIDEO] Should I go to therapy every week? How long will therapy last? Dr. Daniel BE shares some insights into how you can get the most out of therapy.
Daniel BE
Get Started: Making Your First Call to a Therapist
[VIDEO] Making that first call to a therapist’s office is not as easy as it seems; in fact, it’s a brave and vulnerable step. It’s time to get started, so we thought we would take a minute to explain what you can expect when you call BEing There Counseling.
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Heated Conversations
[VIDEO] Difficult, heated conversations with our loved ones are sometimes a healthy part of relationship growth. Sometimes they’re not. Dr. Daniel BE talks about when to ask for help.
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Masculine EQ
[VIDEO] Licensed Psychologist, Dr. Daniel BE, talks about the value of building your emotional skill to understand and overcome the hurdles you face, from relationships to personal goals to professional achievements.
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Summer Plans
[VIDEO] Planning summer activities with competing priorities often causes tension within families. Dr. Daniel BE teaches the skills needed to build a connected partnership with your spouse so you can be better parents.
Daniel BE
What’s Driving You?
[VIDEO] Are you moving away from the things you fear or towards the things you value? Find out from Dr. Daniel BE how working on this question can fundamentally shift how you make life choices.
Daniel BE
Sorry Doesn’t Cut It
[VIDEO] Apologies may be one of the most misused and misunderstood exchanges within any close relationship. Dr. Daniel BE talks about navigating the pitfalls so you can create true resolution.
Daniel BE
Too Busy
[VIDEO] Living in a constant frenzy of scheduled activities and lengthy task lists may provide superficial satisfaction, but there are costs. Dr. Daniel BE addresses the issues that so many successful people face in their struggle to live a truly satisfying life.
Daniel BE
Present and Engaged
[VIDEO] Any athlete knows that to win you have to have your head in the game, and apply your full effort and focus in order to play skillfully and effectively. Do you apply this same approach to your relationships? Dr. Daniel BE talks about the skills needed to achieve a peak relationship experience.
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Values-based Choices
[VIDEO] There is an important difference between letting your emotions dictate your choices and making choices based on your values. Dr. Daniel BE talks about why it is important to understand the difference.
Daniel BE
Countering The Defense
[VIDEO] Defensiveness is always a roadblock to effective communication. So what is your next move? Dr. Daniel BE talks about how best to approach issues when defensiveness flairs.
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My life is pretty good, how can therapy make it great?
[VIDEO] Too often, we talk about wanting to make changes like being a better parent, improving our relationship with our spouse, or getting healthier, but instead we stay busy and find ways to distract ourselves. Dr. Daniel BE talks about embracing the discipline, work, and courage it takes to go after making life great.
Donna BE
Survive or Thrive?
[VIDEO] Basing your choices on what pleases others is a sure recipe for disaster, yet we ALL have this internal program. Donna BE explains why and how to chart your own course.
Daniel BE
Success Factors
[VIDEO] What makes for success in life? Dr. Daniel BE of BEing There Counseling talks about the surprising results from the longest-running study on men’s wellbeing.
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Look Good or Be Good?
[VIDEO] Feedback can be tough to hear, but is only made worse when people get reactive. Dr. Daniel BE talks about the emotional skills needed to move from being fearful of criticism, to being receptive and available to all ways you can make your life better.
Donna BE
The Body-Mind-Spirit Misconception
[VIDEO] Development of emotional skill is often overlooked, yet is equally as important as mental intelligence, physical capability, and spiritual faith. Donna BE explains how therapy teaches the skills needed to harness the power of emotions to become a healthy, balanced, and whole person.
Daniel BE
The Easy Out
[VIDEO] Going along and getting along often seems like the “easy out” for avoiding problems. But there’s a cost. Dr. Daniel BE talks about learning the skills to stay true to exactly the person you want to be.
Daniel BE
Check-Engine Light
[VIDEO] Dr. Daniel BE provides some practical guidance for how to use your emotions to find healthy and productive ways to improve your life.
Donna BE
What is Couples Therapy?
[VIDEO] Certified Relationship Specialist, Donna BE, with BEing There Counseling talks about what to expect in couples therapy.
Daniel BE
Lazy Questions
[VIDEO] “How’s it going?” Lazy questions like this probably sound pretty common and familiar, but they invite lazy answers. When this kind of mindless interaction becomes the foundation for relating to your partner, disconnection ensues. Dr. Daniel BE talks about how learning to ask real questions can create healthy relationship dynamics.
Daniel BE
Stress Test
[VIDEO] COVID has been like an unwanted stress test for every one of us. In the past year, each of us has seen clearly where we’re strong and where we’re weak. Dr. Daniel BE talks about how training in emotional skills can build preparedness and capability for dealing with all “stress tests” in life.
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You CAN Make It Worse
[VIDEO] There is no problem so bad that you can’t make it worse. How people respond to personal conflict often makes a bad situation even worse. At BEing There Counseling, we provide training in the emotional skills needed to successfully navigate even the most stressful relationship challenges.
Daniel BE
Off The Back Burner
[VIDEO] Almost everyone has experienced significant disruption to their life in the past year. In the process, naturally, many things have been back-burnered. In therapy at BEing There Counseling, we use a methodical process to identify and work through the encumbrances which are interfering with the restoration of important priorities.
Daniel BE
Healthy Masculinity
[VIDEO] Exploring the essence of healthy masculinity is vital to self-improvement as men. Dr. Daniel BE helps men learn to define and live by their own code and to model courage, strength, and nurturance in all aspects of their life and relationships.
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New Trajectory
[VIDEO] Why do most New Year’s resolutions fail? Often, it’s from a lack of understanding of the issues standing in the way. This year, work with one of the expert therapists at BEing There Counseling to learn the emotional skills needed to set life on a new trajectory.
Donna BE
Facing the New Year
[VIDEO] Development of emotional skill is often overlooked, yet is equally as important as mental intelligence, physical capability, and spiritual faith. Donna BE explains how therapy teaches the skills needed to harness the power of emotions to become a healthy, balanced, and whole person.
Daniel BE
Holiday Conundrum
[VIDEO] The holiday season presents conflicting choices about how to navigate social engagements and social distancing. Intricate problems like these are topics well-suited for discussion with your therapist. Therapy is a process of training—training which includes the skills needed to feel confident and grounded in navigating choices that arise in all areas of life.
Daniel BE
Inertia
[VIDEO] Most people’s fear of challenging the status quo leaves them stalled in a life that lacks fulfillment and purpose. Without training in how to understand one’s own unique set of issues and imprints, we find ourselves at rest and staying at rest. Take the first step in getting the ball rolling by scheduling a therapy appointment. It is time to learn the emotional skills needed to move towards a more meaningful life.
Daniel BE
Holiday Uncertainty
[VIDEO] In 2020, holiday traditions were turned into holiday uncertainty. Licensed Psychologist, Dr. Daniel BE, provides a leg up in dealing with the unexpected and challenging situations.
Daniel BE
Not Exactly Happy
[VIDEO] We are quick to celebrate important life changes, but often try to ignore the unexpected anxieties that come with these “happy” times. Dr. Daniel BE explains the training you need to skillfully navigate the mixed emotional experiences that accompany all life changes.
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Blowups
[VIDEO] Some couples experience chaotic cycles in their relationship in which periods of calm alternate with sudden blowups. Partners in this cycle often seem oblivious to their issues with each other until they create extreme conflict. Dr. Daniel BE explains how he teaches couples to identify early emotional cues and address relationship issues in a healthier way.
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Who’s to Blame?
[VIDEO] Have you ever grumbled, “She drives me crazy!” or “He makes me so mad!”? When feeling high levels of anxiety, stress, or insecurity, it’s common to want to lash out and blame your partner. Dr. Daniel BE of BEing There Counseling explains how exploring the roots of your experience and understanding who is responsible for what can help to create the trust and connection you want with your partner.
Daniel BE
Good Intentions vs. Good Execution
[VIDEO] We all have good intentions to be a better parent, a better spouse, a better businessperson, or even a better athlete. Yet, it often feels like we run into walls—something unknown that’s holding us back from creating what we truly want in life. Dr. Daniel BE of BEing There Counseling explains how understanding the unconscious programs that are running your life is essential for connecting good intentions with good execution.
Daniel BE
Getting More Out Of Therapy
[VIDEO] Therapy can help you to address and resolve not only the immediate problems affecting your relationship, but also the underlying issues. The relationship experts at BEing There Counseling can help you to develop healthier long-term patterns for creating true intimacy with your partner.
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Dealing with “The New Normal”
While the COVID-19 pandemic has given birth to many terms that marginalize the emotional impact of current circumstances, few seem as incongruous as “the new normal.” The “new normal” may never seem normal again, but the ability to live a grounded, purposeful, and connected life will always be within your control.
BTES Staff
Worried Sick: Why Stress Affects Our Health
Is it possible to be worried sick? We’ve all heard at some point how unhealthy emotional stress is for our bodies. That tightness in your gut, the tension in your chest, the difficulty sleeping—these are all tangible symptoms of sustained emotional stress negatively affecting our body’s immune system.
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Sensationalized News and Emotional Wellbeing
As they say in the news industry, “If it bleeds, it leads.” When useful information is wrapped in an alarmist, sensational presentation, it has a toxic effect on our emotional health. Read our latest article to learn how to retain your inner calm and make capable, wise choices, rather than imbibing in sensational media.
BTES Staff
Is This An Emergency?
During times of uncertainty and anxiety, many situations feel like an emergency. How do you respond? This short read explains some of the ways that a skilled therapist can help you make careful, deliberate choices in this extraordinary time.
BTES Staff
Coronavirus and Social Anxiety
During times of uncertainty and anxiety it is important to put more energy and effort into reaffirming your support network. This short read explains some of the ways that BEing There will help you get through this extraordinary time.
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Choose Wisely
While being calm and clear is critical to making wise choices, it is all too easy to be drawn into the drama of immediate, high emotional-energy decisions. When immediacy and urgency dictate the course of life, chaos ensues. BEing There teaches the emotional skills needed to recover our calm and choose deliberate, truthful actions.
BTES Staff
Showing Up Is Not Enough
Any athlete knows that showing up to the game is not enough to win: They have to have their head in the game, and apply their full effort and focus in order to play skillfully and effectively. This article talks about the importance of doing more than just showing up in a relationship. Start learning the emotional skills needed to be fully engaged with your partner and create exceptional relationships.
BTES Staff
A Paradox of Intelligence
The apparent success intelligence affords does not always equate to a grounded and meaningful life. Read this short article to learn more about why intelligent people can struggle to create genuine harmony, well-being, and life satisfaction.
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Goals and Resolutions
Are you feeling good about your New Year’s resolutions? Does your resolution to spend more time with your dog seem to pale in comparison to your coworker’s resolution to save the earth? What comes up for you in this process? While making resolutions seems like a simple process, few of us are trained in the emotional skills necessary to effect meaningful and lasting change in our lives. Rather than giving up on this year’s resolutions, consider working with a skilled therapist to make goal-setting a healthy and empowering process.
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Controlling the Impossible
The holiday season brings a mix of enjoyable activities and experiences, which are often combined with stress and a frenzied pace that can invite a sense of feeling out of control. We make lists, we decorate, we shop, we run around like crazy trying to do our best to ensure that everyone has a great time. In the end, we are trying to control everyone else’s emotional experience, a mission that is simply impossible.
Learning what you can and cannot control is an emotional skill taught by the skilled professional therapists at BEing There. Rather than another year of buckling-down and putting on a happy face, make this the time you learn to successfully create what you truly want.
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‘Tis the Season for Denial
The holiday season is accompanied by pressures and demands which invite us to put on a happy face and plow through the holiday frenzy. This year can be different. The therapists at BEing There Counseling can help you utilize the holiday season as an opportunity to raise your emotional awareness and learn to make deliberate choices. Your inner peace, your body, your close relationships, and your bank account will all be glad to see you choose a more conscious course of action.
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Age & Wisdom
It is not a given that anyone who ages is wise. Some people just get old. Wisdom must be gathered and claimed in order to be recognized. This short read explains the importance and nature of the work needed to navigate your evolution from the vitality and bliss of youth to the profound wisdom of the aged.
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Therapy Ain’t for Sissies
World-class athletes, Fortune 500 CEOs, and even Navy SEALs seek therapy to help them understand the emotional issues that inhibit their peak performance. It’s time to get over the perception that therapy’s just a bunch of touchy-feely stuff. No, therapy isn’t for sissies. Therapy is a challenging, courageous pursuit, and the only place to receive training on the emotional aspect in order to more effectively deal with all areas of life.
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Can We Talk?
Romantic relationships have undergone a revolution in the last twenty-five years. This short read explains the shift away from romance-based relationships into a data-driven era. Whether your romantic relationship began online, through social media, or in real life, everyone needs emotional skills to create true intimacy.
BTES Staff
Breaking the Parent-Child Cycle
Many parents start out with a passionate declaration, “I’m not going to make the same mistakes my parents did.” Yet, they quickly find that it’s all too easy to fall into the same old familiar patterns of behavior they were raised with. The challenge is that being an exceptional parent requires learning the emotional skills to effectively break these patterns.
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My Bad: The Misunderstood Apology
Apologies may be one of the most misused and misunderstood exchanges within any close relationship. This short read talks about the role an effective apology plays in creating a true resolution to the issue at hand.
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Just Too Busy
This post talks about how many people exist in a frenzy of scheduled activities and lengthy task lists that results in exhaustion, emptiness, and disconnect. While many have learned the skills to plan a busy day, few have been taught the emotional skills needed to create a pace of life that allows for genuine connection.
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Get Your Priorities Straight
This post talks about the importance of priorities: understanding, clarifying, and living according to your own priorities. Start learning the emotional skills needed to avoid “just getting through another crazy day” and to set your priorities in a manner that creates harmony and purpose.
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