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Emotional Distance
Mary Beth Luedtke

Closing Emotional Distance

[VIDEO] Are you feeling disconnected from your partner without understanding how it happened? Mary Beth Luedtke can help you build the emotional skills you need to strengthen and maintain a healthy relationship.

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Perfectionism
Mary Beth Luedtke

Perfectionism

[VIDEO] Perfectionism has a major pitfall. Therapist Mary Beth Luedtke can help you find a better, more fulfilling way to achieve your goals.

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Communication Isn't the Problem
Daniel BE

Communication Isn’t the Problem

[VIDEO] Most couples think poor communication is the primary source of problems in their relationship. Licensed psychologist Dr. Daniel BE explains that communication skills are only part of the problem. Find out how to get to the REAL root of your relationship issues.

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100% Responsbile
Daniel BE

100% Responsible

[VIDEO] Therapy is a skill-building tool to make your life better. This means understanding the choices that have gotten you to where you are now and learning new skills that allow you to make different and better choices in the future.

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Back to School
Daniel BE

Back to School

[VIDEO] Three steps parents can take to stay connected during the busy back-to-school season. Dr. Daniel BE offers practical advice for families on how to work together as a cohesive unit.

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Attending To You
Mary Beth Luedtke

Attending to You

[VIDEO] Untangle the issues around self-care with therapist Mary Beth Luedtke. Learn the essential emotional skills to prioritize your well-being, enabling you to become a healthier you.

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Healthy Marriage
Donna BE

Healthy Marriage

[VIDEO] Donna BE, a Board Certified Professional Counselor and Certified Relationship Specialist, discusses some of the tangible and identifiable elements that make for a healthy marriage.

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Connecting The Dots
Donna BE

Connecting the Dots

[VIDEO] Do you ever feel like your day-to-day experiences are all over the map? Board Certified Professional Counselor, Donna BE, shares valuable insights on building emotional skills and creating a clear and meaningful picture of your experiences.

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Navigating Change
Mary Beth Luedtke

Navigating Change

[VIDEO] Life transitions can disrupt our lives and bring about powerful, unexpected emotions. Therapist Mary Beth Luedtke offers expert guidance and training to help you skillfully navigate any changes that come your way.

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Being Playful
Daniel BE

Being Playful

[VIDEO] Play can easily be overlooked, but it’s so important for our emotional health. Dr. Daniel BE encourages you to bring some playfulness back into your life.

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Being Present
Daniel BE

Being Present

[VIDEO] The ability to be present is a fundamental aspect of emotional health. Dr. Daniel BE talks about the training needed to build this valuable skill.

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Men's Group
Daniel BE

Men’s Group

[VIDEO] Be a better man, husband, father, and friend; find more motivation, inspiration, grounding, and wisdom. Dr. Daniel BE talks about the role his men’s groups can play in your health, personal growth, and success.

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Parenting The Digital Generation
Mary Beth Luedtke

Parenting The Digital Generation

[VIDEO] Did taking the phone away solve the problem? What other options are there? Mary Beth Luedtke guides parents in navigating issues with teens around connection, phones, and social media.

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The Value of Conflict
Daniel BE

The Value of Conflict

[VIDEO] Dr. Daniel BE shares his perspective on conflict and what you can do differently to use every experience, even conflict, as an opportunity to create connection.

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I Swore I'd Never Do That!
Mary Beth Luedtke

I Swore I’d Never Do That!

[VIDEO] Can you think of something you swore you’d never do as a parent and then found yourself doing anyway? Mary Beth Luedtke at BEing There Counseling trains parents in the emotional skills they need to create new and healthier family dynamics.

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Never Compromise
Donna BE

Never Compromise

[VIDEO] Donna BE can teach you and your partner to work together as a team to achieve an uncommon level of consideration, cooperation, and connection—without compromise.

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Get Started: Making Your First Call to a Therapist
Daniel BE

Get Started: Making Your First Call to a Therapist

[VIDEO] Making that first call to a therapist’s office is not as easy as it seems; in fact, it’s a brave and vulnerable step. It’s time to get started, so we thought we would take a minute to explain what you can expect when you call BEing There Counseling.

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Heated Conversations
Daniel BE

Heated Conversations

[VIDEO] Difficult, heated conversations with our loved ones are sometimes a healthy part of relationship growth. Sometimes they’re not. Dr. Daniel BE talks about when to ask for help.

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Masculine EQ
Daniel BE

Masculine EQ

[VIDEO] Licensed Psychologist, Dr. Daniel BE, talks about the value of building your emotional skill to understand and overcome the hurdles you face, from relationships to personal goals to professional achievements.

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Erosion of Trust
Daniel BE

Erosion of Trust

[VIDEO] The erosion of trust in a relationship often occurs in ways you wouldn’t necessarily expect. Relationship Therapist, Dr. Daniel BE, talks about how this happens and the skills he teaches to help couples create connection and togetherness.

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Parenting Skills
Daniel BE

Summer Plans

[VIDEO] Planning summer activities with competing priorities often causes tension within families. Dr. Daniel BE teaches the skills needed to build a connected partnership with your spouse so you can be better parents.

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What's Driving You?
Daniel BE

What’s Driving You?

[VIDEO] Are you moving away from the things you fear or towards the things you value? Find out from Dr. Daniel BE how working on this question can fundamentally shift how you make life choices.

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Sorry Doesn't Cut It
Daniel BE

Sorry Doesn’t Cut It

[VIDEO] Apologies may be one of the most misused and misunderstood exchanges within any close relationship. Dr. Daniel BE talks about navigating the pitfalls so you can create true resolution.

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Too Busy
Daniel BE

Too Busy

[VIDEO] Living in a constant frenzy of scheduled activities and lengthy task lists may provide superficial satisfaction, but there are costs. Dr. Daniel BE addresses the issues that so many successful people face in their struggle to live a truly satisfying life.

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Present and Engaged
Daniel BE

Present and Engaged

[VIDEO] Any athlete knows that to win you have to have your head in the game, and apply your full effort and focus in order to play skillfully and effectively. Do you apply this same approach to your relationships? Dr. Daniel BE talks about the skills needed to achieve a peak relationship experience.

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Values-Based Choices
Daniel BE

Values-based Choices

[VIDEO] There is an important difference between letting your emotions dictate your choices and making choices based on your values. Dr. Daniel BE talks about why it is important to understand the difference.

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Resolutions That Stick
Daniel BE

Resolutions That Stick

[VIDEO] Dr. Daniel BE gives a Licensed Psychologist’s perspective on why resolutions fail, and what it takes to turn this year’s inspiration into meaningful, lasting improvement.

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Countering The Defense
Daniel BE

Countering The Defense

[VIDEO] Defensiveness is always a roadblock to effective communication. So what is your next move? Dr. Daniel BE talks about how best to approach issues when defensiveness flairs.

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My life is pretty good, how can therapy make it great?
Daniel BE

My life is pretty good, how can therapy make it great?

[VIDEO] Too often, we talk about wanting to make changes like being a better parent, improving our relationship with our spouse, or getting healthier, but instead we stay busy and find ways to distract ourselves. Dr. Daniel BE talks about embracing the discipline, work, and courage it takes to go after making life great.

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Survive or Thrive?
Donna BE

Survive or Thrive?

[VIDEO] Basing your choices on what pleases others is a sure recipe for disaster, yet we ALL have this internal program. Donna BE explains why and how to chart your own course.

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Success Factors
Daniel BE

Success Factors

[VIDEO] What makes for success in life? Dr. Daniel BE of BEing There Counseling talks about the surprising results from the longest-running study on men’s wellbeing.

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Look Good or Be Good?
Daniel BE

Look Good or Be Good?

[VIDEO] Feedback can be tough to hear, but is only made worse when people get reactive. Dr. Daniel BE talks about the emotional skills needed to move from being fearful of criticism, to being receptive and available to all ways you can make your life better.

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The Body-Mind-Spirit Misconception
Donna BE

The Body-Mind-Spirit Misconception

[VIDEO] Development of emotional skill is often overlooked, yet is equally as important as mental intelligence, physical capability, and spiritual faith. Donna BE explains how therapy teaches the skills needed to harness the power of emotions to become a healthy, balanced, and whole person.

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The Easy Out
Daniel BE

The Easy Out

[VIDEO] Going along and getting along often seems like the “easy out” for avoiding problems. But there’s a cost. Dr. Daniel BE talks about learning the skills to stay true to exactly the person you want to be.

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Retool Your Habits
Daniel BE

Retool Your Habits

[VIDEO] How do you know if your habits are working for you or not? In this video, Dr. Daniel BE talks about how therapy can be the key to helping you retool your habits and create your next steps forward.

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Check-Engine Light
Daniel BE

Check-Engine Light

[VIDEO] Dr. Daniel BE provides some practical guidance for how to use your emotions to find healthy and productive ways to improve your life.

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Lazy Questions
Daniel BE

Lazy Questions

[VIDEO] “How’s it going?” Lazy questions like this probably sound pretty common and familiar, but they invite lazy answers. When this kind of mindless interaction becomes the foundation for relating to your partner, disconnection ensues. Dr. Daniel BE talks about how learning to ask real questions can create healthy relationship dynamics.

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Stress Test
Daniel BE

Stress Test

[VIDEO] COVID has been like an unwanted stress test for every one of us. In the past year, each of us has seen clearly where we’re strong and where we’re weak. Dr. Daniel BE talks about how training in emotional skills can build preparedness and capability for dealing with all “stress tests” in life.

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You CAN Make It Worse
Daniel BE

You CAN Make It Worse

[VIDEO] There is no problem so bad that you can’t make it worse. How people respond to personal conflict often makes a bad situation even worse. At BEing There Counseling, we provide training in the emotional skills needed to successfully navigate even the most stressful relationship challenges.

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Off The Back Burner
Daniel BE

Off The Back Burner

[VIDEO] Almost everyone has experienced significant disruption to their life in the past year. In the process, naturally, many things have been back-burnered. In therapy at BEing There Counseling, we use a methodical process to identify and work through the encumbrances which are interfering with the restoration of important priorities.

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Healthy Masculinity
Daniel BE

Healthy Masculinity

[VIDEO] Exploring the essence of healthy masculinity is vital to self-improvement as men. Dr. Daniel BE helps men learn to define and live by their own code and to model courage, strength, and nurturance in all aspects of their life and relationships.

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New Trajectory
Daniel BE

New Trajectory

[VIDEO] Why do most New Year’s resolutions fail? Often, it’s from a lack of understanding of the issues standing in the way. This year, work with one of the expert therapists at BEing There Counseling to learn the emotional skills needed to set life on a new trajectory.

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Facing 2021
Donna BE

Facing the New Year

[VIDEO] Development of emotional skill is often overlooked, yet is equally as important as mental intelligence, physical capability, and spiritual faith. Donna BE explains how therapy teaches the skills needed to harness the power of emotions to become a healthy, balanced, and whole person.

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Holiday Conundrum
Daniel BE

Holiday Conundrum

[VIDEO] The holiday season presents conflicting choices about how to navigate social engagements and social distancing. Intricate problems like these are topics well-suited for discussion with your therapist. Therapy is a process of training—training which includes the skills needed to feel confident and grounded in navigating choices that arise in all areas of life.

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Inertia
Daniel BE

Inertia

[VIDEO] Most people’s fear of challenging the status quo leaves them stalled in a life that lacks fulfillment and purpose. Without training in how to understand one’s own unique set of issues and imprints, we find ourselves at rest and staying at rest. Take the first step in getting the ball rolling by scheduling a therapy appointment. It is time to learn the emotional skills needed to move towards a more meaningful life.

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Wilderness Therapy
Daniel BE

Holiday Uncertainty

[VIDEO] In 2020, holiday traditions were turned into holiday uncertainty. Licensed Psychologist, Dr. Daniel BE, provides a leg up in dealing with the unexpected and challenging situations.

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Not Exactly Happy
Daniel BE

Not Exactly Happy

[VIDEO] We are quick to celebrate important life changes, but often try to ignore the unexpected anxieties that come with these “happy” times. Dr. Daniel BE explains the training you need to skillfully navigate the mixed emotional experiences that accompany all life changes.

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Blowups
Daniel BE

Blowups

[VIDEO] Some couples experience chaotic cycles in their relationship in which periods of calm alternate with sudden blowups. Partners in this cycle often seem oblivious to their issues with each other until they create extreme conflict. Dr. Daniel BE explains how he teaches couples to identify early emotional cues and address relationship issues in a healthier way.

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Who is to blame
Daniel BE

Who’s to Blame?

[VIDEO] Have you ever grumbled, “She drives me crazy!” or “He makes me so mad!”? When feeling high levels of anxiety, stress, or insecurity, it’s common to want to lash out and blame your partner. Dr. Daniel BE of BEing There Counseling explains how exploring the roots of your experience and understanding who is responsible for what can help to create the trust and connection you want with your partner.

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Good Intentions vs. Good Execution
Daniel BE

Good Intentions vs. Good Execution

[VIDEO] We all have good intentions to be a better parent, a better spouse, a better businessperson, or even a better athlete. Yet, it often feels like we run into walls—something unknown that’s holding us back from creating what we truly want in life. Dr. Daniel BE of BEing There Counseling explains how understanding the unconscious programs that are running your life is essential for connecting good intentions with good execution.

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When Priorities Change
Daniel BE

When Priorities Change

[VIDEO] While it is natural for priorities to shift and evolve over time, couples often feel that they are drifting apart as their individual priorities change. Maintaining healthy, open communication is critical to keeping a relationship strong. At BEing There Counseling, we help guide couples to learn tangible skills for working through all forms of relationship issues and discover the profound opportunities for mutual growth that come from a committed partnership.

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Getting More Out Of Therapy
Daniel BE

Getting More Out Of Therapy

[VIDEO] Therapy can help you to address and resolve not only the immediate problems affecting your relationship, but also the underlying issues. The relationship experts at BEing There Counseling can help you to develop healthier long-term patterns for creating true intimacy with your partner.

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New Normal
BTES Staff

Dealing with “The New Normal”

While the COVID-19 pandemic has given birth to many terms that marginalize the emotional impact of current circumstances, few seem as incongruous as “the new normal.” The “new normal” may never seem normal again, but the ability to live a grounded, purposeful, and connected life will always be within your control.

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Worried Sick
BTES Staff

Worried Sick: Why Stress Affects Our Health

Is it possible to be worried sick? We’ve all heard at some point how unhealthy emotional stress is for our bodies. That tightness in your gut, the tension in your chest, the difficulty sleeping—these are all tangible symptoms of sustained emotional stress negatively affecting our body’s immune system.

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Sensationalized News and Emotional Wellbeing
BTES Staff

Sensationalized News and Emotional Wellbeing

As they say in the news industry, “If it bleeds, it leads.” When useful information is wrapped in an alarmist, sensational presentation, it has a toxic effect on our emotional health. Read our latest article to learn how to retain your inner calm and make capable, wise choices, rather than imbibing in sensational media.

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Is This An Emergency?
BTES Staff

Is This An Emergency?

During times of uncertainty and anxiety, many situations feel like an emergency. How do you respond? This short read explains some of the ways that a skilled therapist can help you make careful, deliberate choices in this extraordinary time.

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Coronavirus and Social Anxiety
BTES Staff

Coronavirus and Social Anxiety

During times of uncertainty and anxiety it is important to put more energy and effort into reaffirming your support network. This short read explains some of the ways that BEing There will help you get through this extraordinary time.

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Choose Wisely
BTES Staff

Choose Wisely

While being calm and clear is critical to making wise choices, it is all too easy to be drawn into the drama of immediate, high emotional-energy decisions. When immediacy and urgency dictate the course of life, chaos ensues. BEing There teaches the emotional skills needed to recover our calm and choose deliberate, truthful actions.

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Showing up is not enough
BTES Staff

Showing Up Is Not Enough

Any athlete knows that showing up to the game is not enough to win: They have to have their head in the game, and apply their full effort and focus in order to play skillfully and effectively. This article talks about the importance of doing more than just showing up in a relationship. Start learning the emotional skills needed to be fully engaged with your partner and create exceptional relationships.

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Paradox of Intelligence
BTES Staff

A Paradox of Intelligence

The apparent success intelligence affords does not always equate to a grounded and meaningful life. Read this short article to learn more about why intelligent people can struggle to create genuine harmony, well-being, and life satisfaction.

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Goals and Resolutions
BTES Staff

Goals and Resolutions

Are you feeling good about your New Year’s resolutions? Does your resolution to spend more time with your dog seem to pale in comparison to your coworker’s resolution to save the earth? What comes up for you in this process? While making resolutions seems like a simple process, few of us are trained in the emotional skills necessary to effect meaningful and lasting change in our lives. Rather than giving up on this year’s resolutions, consider working with a skilled therapist to make goal-setting a healthy and empowering process.

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Controlling the Impossible
BTES Staff

Controlling the Impossible

The holiday season brings a mix of enjoyable activities and experiences, which are often combined with stress and a frenzied pace that can invite a sense of feeling out of control. We make lists, we decorate, we shop, we run around like crazy trying to do our best to ensure that everyone has a great time. In the end, we are trying to control everyone else’s emotional experience, a mission that is simply impossible.

Learning what you can and cannot control is an emotional skill taught by the skilled professional therapists at BEing There. Rather than another year of buckling-down and putting on a happy face, make this the time you learn to successfully create what you truly want.

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‘Tis the Season for Denial
BTES Staff

‘Tis the Season for Denial

The holiday season is accompanied by pressures and demands which invite us to put on a happy face and plow through the holiday frenzy. This year can be different. The therapists at BEing There Counseling can help you utilize the holiday season as an opportunity to raise your emotional awareness and learn to make deliberate choices. Your inner peace, your body, your close relationships, and your bank account will all be glad to see you choose a more conscious course of action.

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Age & Wisdom
BTES Staff

Age & Wisdom

It is not a given that anyone who ages is wise. Some people just get old. Wisdom must be gathered and claimed in order to be recognized. This short read explains the importance and nature of the work needed to navigate your evolution from the vitality and bliss of youth to the profound wisdom of the aged.

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Therapy Ain’t for Sissies
BTES Staff

Therapy Ain’t for Sissies

World-class athletes, Fortune 500 CEOs, and even Navy SEALs seek therapy to help them understand the emotional issues that inhibit their peak performance. It’s time to get over the perception that therapy’s just a bunch of touchy-feely stuff. No, therapy isn’t for sissies. Therapy is a challenging, courageous pursuit, and the only place to receive training on the emotional aspect in order to more effectively deal with all areas of life.

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Can We Talk?
BTES Staff

Can We Talk?

Romantic relationships have undergone a revolution in the last twenty-five years. This short read explains the shift away from romance-based relationships into a data-driven era. Whether your romantic relationship began online, through social media, or in real life, everyone needs emotional skills to create true intimacy.

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Breaking the Parent-Child Cycle
BTES Staff

Breaking the Parent-Child Cycle

Many parents start out with a passionate declaration, “I’m not going to make the same mistakes my parents did.” Yet, they quickly find that it’s all too easy to fall into the same old familiar patterns of behavior they were raised with. The challenge is that being an exceptional parent requires learning the emotional skills to effectively break these patterns.

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My Bad: The Misunderstood Apology
BTES Staff

My Bad: The Misunderstood Apology

Apologies may be one of the most misused and misunderstood exchanges within any close relationship. This short read talks about the role an effective apology plays in creating a true resolution to the issue at hand.

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The Fallacy of Compromise
BTES Staff

The Fallacy of Compromise

Mainstream thinking is full of useless ideas for making relationships work, like the idea that making compromises is somehow a necessary and beneficial skill in a relationship. Pointing out these fallacies doesn’t make us popular, but we’re not here to be liked; we’re here to help people be healthier. One of the things that makes BEing There unique is our commitment to teaching healthy personal and interpersonal skills, rather than trying to be mainstream or popular.

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Just Too Busy
BTES Staff

Just Too Busy

This post talks about how many people exist in a frenzy of scheduled activities and lengthy task lists that results in exhaustion, emptiness, and disconnect. While many have learned the skills to plan a busy day, few have been taught the emotional skills needed to create a pace of life that allows for genuine connection.

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Get Your Priorities Straight
BTES Staff

Get Your Priorities Straight

This post talks about the importance of priorities: understanding, clarifying, and living according to your own priorities. Start learning the emotional skills needed to avoid “just getting through another crazy day” and to set your priorities in a manner that creates harmony and purpose.

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